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Anna's avatar

I love this post for many reasons. I'm interested in that map of consciousness that you posted. I don't have much time to spend with your content today, but I'll come back to consider some of your points. It's difficult when you've been raised in an angry household. That was my childhood experience. I felt I grew up emotionally handicapped, but you're never too old to change. We get to choose how we show up in the world.

I've also observed that some people are just chill. It's their natural disposition to be easygoing. They've always been that way. It seems to be part of their nature. Sometimes, it’s difficult for me to relate to chill as an expression of life at all times. I do my best. That's all I can ask of myself.

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Manuel Saez's avatar

I agree, Anna. Some people are more sensitive to emotional vibes, some people do not sense them as easily. I think some of the chill people you mention are those. I don't think either is good or bad, it is what it is.

I am one of the hypersensitive type and life can be painful sometimes, but I learned to live with my thoughts in a healthy way.

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April Mensinger's avatar

I don't like to get or be angry... I find it disorienting...It's too much like the whoosh of fire and can leave you burned...

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Manuel Saez's avatar

Thanks for sharing, April.

Yes, anger can be dangerous. My dad used to say it is like a very sharp knife. It can help you do your job or it can cut you…

Still, with awareness anger can be a useful tool, imho

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Genevieve's avatar

Loved this post! Anger is an emotion we all experience, and I feel like we aren't taught enough (or maybe any) practices that can help us express it in a healthy way and move through it. I also loved learning about the Spanish words for anger, thank you!

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Manuel Saez's avatar

🤜💥🤛

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Deborah Healey 🇬🇧's avatar

As a personal choice, I find no place for anger. By practicing thoughtfulness, clarity, and empathy for others, we can promote greater understanding of their difficulties. It's important to look within ourselves and to offer kindness, support, and guidance. We should extend grace and patience to both ourselves and others to ensure that we are fully understood. A lack of these qualities can lead to stress and a diminished sense of self-worth.

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Chris Fawthrop's avatar

I definitely found it useful in my youth, and still do occasionally to this day.

That said, as I have matured I have found anger to be a hindrance. Proud to say I've come a long way, but not ashamed to say I'm still growing.

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Manuel Saez's avatar

Sage move! Thanks for sharing Chris!

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Daniel Gozo's avatar

The idea of chilling off to tone down anger sounds like a plan - you could end up saying hurtful stuff that will damage relationships forever. When I was fresh from varsity I realised that my short temper could get me fired. I decided to take a couple of days leave at times to cool off. You got me down memory lane Manuel 🤠

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Manuel Saez's avatar

Thank for sharing, Daniel 💪

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