Happy to help. I'm always glad when I encounter great writing that illuminates some truths I see and puts a different spin on things and it is nice to encounter kindred souls.
I have been challenging thoughts from the past. Thinking about things my parents said that hurt me at the time and led to false beliefs of being unloved. What else could they mean? They both had their own issues to deal with. I can see that now. Also what I grew up believing was making me feel bad about not meeting my fathers high unrealistic expectations was actually an attempt to motivate me into trying harder.
Insightful article. We humans sure do love our narratives. What we think to ourselves is not always true.
This article reminds me of a post of mine that tackles this using a different metaphor.
https://heartmindfusion.substack.com/p/the-world-a-mirror-to-ourselves
Thanks for sharing, John!
Happy to help. I'm always glad when I encounter great writing that illuminates some truths I see and puts a different spin on things and it is nice to encounter kindred souls.
The solutions all sound so simple yet why can't we do it.
Simple isn't easy.
It's up to us, choose peace.
Choose simplicity.
Not easy.
Do, we must.
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I have been challenging thoughts from the past. Thinking about things my parents said that hurt me at the time and led to false beliefs of being unloved. What else could they mean? They both had their own issues to deal with. I can see that now. Also what I grew up believing was making me feel bad about not meeting my fathers high unrealistic expectations was actually an attempt to motivate me into trying harder.
I feel you, Sue. I see myself in your story. All I can do now is love that child (my younger self) and my parent. They did the best they could.
Somehow, I am grateful for how things played out, because I am happy where it took me in the long run...
Yes. Me too. I would not be the person I am without the experiences I had 💕
When the mind keeps talking after the moment is gone.
The conversation ends, but the commentary continues.
The more we replay, the more we replace.
Not what happened—but how we feel about it.
Sometimes the story the mind spins has more to do with our own ache than with the other person’s words.
So what if we didn’t just fact-check the thought—what if we felt-check it too?
Because peace doesn’t come from rewriting someone else’s meaning—it comes from remembering your own.
Nicely written, John!
Be kind enough to yourself to reflect on your day and say: there is stuff I did today, I have another day to build on it.
That's the mindset!